battle of generations
“Every generation revolts against its fathers and makes friends with its grandfathers”. In my opinion it is definitely truth. The same relation repeats among all generations. In order to illustrate it I will present “the battle of generations” in my own family.
My grandpa (a person who I highly admire) told me many times how it used to be in the past. He also mentioned how his relations with the parents looked like. You cannot even imagine how close it was to my actual situation. He was arguing with them, had different views of the world, was doing things to spite them – just like I do. My grandpa also told me few things about my father. I was extremely surprised to hear that a man against who I am revolting was a rebel too when he was younger.
An interesting fact may be that I discovered my family relations thanks to the grandfather. I think it is also significant when speaking about “the battle of generations”. I talk to my father every day, but I find out the facts about my relatives from a man who lives in a different city. It is demonstrating with whom I am able to communicate better. Of course it happens because of the roles of these people in my life. My father’s responsibility is to raise me well. I understand it, but I often argue with him due to his decisions or advices. The grandfather treats me more friendly. He is less serious and allows me to do things my father would not let me do. As an example, he gave me his old car to become my property when my father does not even want to borrow me his one for a moment.
I suppose that my “battle of generations” is very similar to what happens in every family. I also do not think that it used to be different in the past and that it would change in the future. The generations were revolting against their fathers and making friends with their grandfathers, they are doing so, and they always will.
As far as I am concerned the sentence is very true. I came to that conclusion from the observation of modern society – in which adolescents often revolt against their parents. Meanwhile, teenagers are in a rapport with their grandparents. How does that happen, if the generation gap should be even bigger between them?
One the one hand, there are ‘fathers’. In most of the families parents bring up children – they need to look after them, teach them how to exist in a society and how to behave; in addition, sometimes they feel obligated to think for their children when they seem they have not done it themselves. In other words: they control adolescents by grounding them, not allowing to go to the parties, concerts or wherever they want to go. However, young people do not necessary like it – in fact, they do not like it at all – they want to get things done their own way. That is why they revolt.
On the other hand, there are grandparents. Usually they do not have such a great impact on teenagers as parents have. They come across in a good light, sometimes spoiling their grandchildren, making delicious dinners and giving small presents. Adolescents, comparing them to their parents who come up with ‘don’t’s, ‘no’es and ‘do’es, come to a conclusion that grandfathers are always good to them without a reason: you are their grandchild. This is only condition you need to fulfill. Then, which part of family seems more like a friend to an adolescent? I guess the answer is clear.
I do not agree. I would rather say that in a certain age people revolt against everyone. This may occur in relation to parents, but not only them are ‘injured’. Grandparents also suffer from bad behavior of grandchildren and it is not a rule that when kids argue with their parents they will be in friendly terms with their grandparents.
I would rather say that in time of revolt young people are offended at the big part of their families, but they find support in friends and the members of their family, who are in the same age as they are. During this period, relief of people, who are the most important, is really necessary. I think that parents should not require from their child’s immediate change for the better. They should calmly await the moment, while making sure that nothing bad is happening to their child.
Fortunately, in most cases, the period of revolt passes and later the time of rebellion is just a bad memory. But when it does not want to pass? Then the parents should consider whether their child is still maturing or maybe it has a serious problem.